We want to start a conversation about death. Why? Because like it or not, it's going to happen to all of us. We want to help people feel more comfortable about death and dying, to discover the array of pathways and possibilities, to make well-informed choices, and to live their lives with more presence, peace and happiness.
Death Dinner Party was born in early 2015, after a serendipitous conversation between founders and friends Ruby Lohman and Clare Woodward. We thought it was strange that there were so few forums in which to talk about death – and so little acknowledgement of the topic. Our society is wonderful at questioning, reimagining and redesigning, but when it comes to death, most of us have our heads stuck firmly in the sand. We wanted to change that.
In 2016, after co-running several sold-out events, Clare decided to move on to other exciting things (she's one busy woman!), but she remains a special friend of Death Dinner Party.
Ruby Lohman is a communications coach + mentor, writer + editor, event creator, ex-food journalist and funeral director’s stepdaughter. The first car she ever drove was a hearse. She has long been fascinated by death and funerals, and believes the Western world handles both quite badly. She’s also passionate about good food and wine, particularly the stuff that's made ethically and sustainably.
When Ruby dies, she wants to be buried in a Capsula Mundi pod. She’d like freshly shucked oysters and a nice chablis served at her outdoor funeral. She's a registered organ donor and currently has no will (or any real assets to speak of).
want to say hi?
We’re always on the lookout for interesting speakers, great chefs and volunteers who want to get involved. Give us a shout if you’d like to be part of Death Dinner Party, or if you know someone who would.